Meesha Shafi, the singer and actor, who recently took to the Twitter to talk about the sexual harassment she faced by Ali Zafar allegedly, talks in detail about the incidents and her response after the harassment.
Shafi recently give an interview to the Instep in which she spoke to Maheen Sabeeh about how they have made a proper awareness among their children about inappropriate ‘touch’ and that they should speak up.
Meesha Shafi tells the kids, “It’s important to speak up; it’s not your mistake in any situation…Don’t ever think that it’s you who needs to hide this.”
So, being an adult and fully aware with sexual harassment, she wasn’t able to stay quiet which led her to open up on the Twitter by becoming the part of #MeToo.
Since, the news broke and it has took the media by storm, Instep talked to her about the ins and outs related to the sexual harassment she faced allegedly by Ali Zafar.
“The first time it happened, I didn’t react and just left. I did tell my husband. But I also asked her to not to react. I am a public figure and so is he (Ali Zafar). My thought process was who I am and who is he and what that’s going to lead to.
Being ready to talk was far off because it had just happened. I buried it,” Meesha Shafi said to the Instep.
Meesha said that it happened second time late last year or last quarter of last year and both the times, they weren’t alone. It happened in a jam room second time according to the singer.
She got booked for a concert and she and Ali were billed to perform on the same concert. This ultimately resulted in them to prepare a song that they could perform together.
Meesha said that she was jamming with her band in Lahore and the organisers insisted that he was trying to get in touch.
“It started turning into a thing and I was seen as difficult or diva, I got such feelers. I was avoiding him.
I was asked to jam, figure out songs, scale and it happened while we were jamming,” she apprised to the Instep.
At this Instep asked from Meesha that why she said “yes” at first to perform at that concert? To this she said, “It’s my bread and butter, it was work coming my way.”
It was also asked in the interview that there are pictures of her and Ali together, to this she said, “I have run into him, our pictures have been taken, at social gatherings etc. Because it is easier to tell yourself to move on in whatever way you can, you try.”
On being asked that what led her to talk and speak up now, she replied that the first and foremost reason is that she is ready. She has started talking to people and she is finding it hard on her conscience to stay silent.
She further said that the more she thinks about it the more she realizes that if she doesn’t go public, nothing will change. This was eating her away.
“Knowing that it wasn’t accidental or subtle, it was getting tougher for me to not to speak up when I tell my children to speak up,” Shafi added.
Meesha ended by talking about opening up that, “It’s liberating, it’s empowering and it’s not the end of the world. I only felt hesitant as long as I hadn’t told anyone.
The more people I apprise, the more power I feel…That has been my direct experience in the case. I have done the thing I feared and I have taken the leap of faith. And you know what, it’s okay.”
However, people reacted differently to this Ali-Meesha controversy, the accused, Ali Zafar, also previously denied the allegations while many other women also opened up about stories of sexual harassment that involve Ali Zafar.