I faced marital problems, leading to an eventual divorce. | FORCED MARRIAGE | Subul Abrar

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“His gentleness was uncompromising; because he would not compete for dominance, he was indomitable.” Ursula K. Le Guin, the Dispossessed.

Forcing a girl for marriage is the violation of human rights. It is occurs when one or both spouses do not (or, in the case of children and some adults at risk, cannot) consent to the marriage. Her constraints can include physical, psychological, financial, sexual, and emotional pressure, threatening conduct, harassment, threat of blackmail, use of deception and other means.

Pakistan, standing at 46% of occurrence rate Forced marriage. Even Bangladesh, which comes second at [9.2%], is comparatively low to Pakistan. The more striking figure is UK specific cases are also high at [8.6%] in comparison to countries such as India [7.2%] and Afghanistan [2.7%].

 

The Convention on the Rights of the Child and the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women both condemn the deprival of girls’ rights implicit in forced and early marriage. Afghanistan has signed these documents, and The Afghan Constitution states: “Any kind of discrimination and privilege among citizens of Afghanistan is forbidden. Citizens of Afghanistan, men and women, have equal rights and responsibilities in front of the law.”

 The percentage of ages of victims, 31% of cases involved victims aged 16-17, and 35% involved youngsters aged 18-21. 14% of the victims were under the age of 15, while 12% involved victims aged 22-25. There were 25 instances involving those with learning disabilities.

The case I am reporting here is taken from a research conducted by Faisal Shafi: One victim of a forced marriage, Farheen, a 31-year-old single mother of one from Spark hill, exclusively spoke about her story. She said, “When my parents found out about my relationship with a student at a university in Pakistan they hastily accepted another proposal. Refusing to accept this relationship my parents arranged a quick fix and I was married within 15 days. After arriving in the UK, I faced marital problems, leading to an eventual divorce.”

Marriage is a sacred bond between a man and woman, which makes each other permissible for them to enjoy and live happily. Allah has described, in the most moving and eloquent terms, this eternal, natural relationship between man and woman, which is filled with security, love, understanding, and compassion:

“And among His signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: Verily in that are signs for those who reflect. (Quran 30:21)

Forced marriages are different from arranged marriages, which include the families of both genders. They take a leading role in arranging the marriage. Both girl and boy have the right whether accept the arranged proposal.

According to Islam, ALLAH ALMIGHTY said, The Qur’an states “O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion…” (4:19). The next chapter of the Sahih al-Bukhari states: “When a man gives his daughter in marriage and she dislikes it, the marriage shall be repudiated” (Bukhari, 67:43).

It is cleared or explained deliberately about the girl who is forced to marry. In any religion including Islam is totally rejected. It violates the ethics, norms, values, freedom, and rights of women. Islamic commandments as mentioned above are very categorical in nature. Strict legislation accompanied by media awareness campaign could be helpful in stemming the trend of the forced marriages. Through paper media could help to deliver the message to stop this humiliation against one gender. Government should make laws against such individuals who initiated this illegal act against human rights.

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